Is it okay to send people healing energy? Surely everyone wants to get healing, right? 
This has been coming up a lot lately and there’s already a lot of good info out there, but I’m throwing my two cents in for what it’s worth.
In my practice I’ve found that true compassion means meeting people where they are. It’s not trying to make them feel, be, or do something different.
As we are learning new empowering tools and expanding our awareness it can be SO TEMPTING to want to offer to help others. But is it TRULY helpful?
Have you ever offered advice or healing to someone you perceived as struggling, only to have them resist it and resent you? Why is that? You were only trying to help, right?
Well, maybe you were only trying to help yourself. Don’t believe me? Check it out. Was your motivation coming truly from a place of love, or was it actually coming from a place of resisting FEELING what they were feeling? When you search your heart, can you see that you may have been uncomfortable witnessing their suffering and rather than sit in it and be with it, you rushed to fix it, to change it, to alter it? I know I’ve done it. As someone who feels others’ pain acutely, I’ve DEFINITELY tried to fix it, heal it, medicate it, and generally change it somehow through DOING something.
But what if it wasn’t about DOING at all? What if it was about BEING? Being present, being grounded, being compassionate, being in TRUST that the energy of unconditional love IS the healer?
Wow, that awareness was a total game changer for me.
And guess what? There is NO WAY you can do healing work while trying to fix! Fixing is of the ego. Only the ego would judge someone or something as being less than perfect. And it’s the presence of the ego judgements that your loved ones are resisting and resenting when you offer advice and other “fixing” strategies. Think about it. You are affirming that they ARE broken, that there IS something wrong with them. You are affirming that you are more enlightened than they, that you know more about their situation than they do.
You see, the ego mind will use any means necessary, including good intentions, to stay in control. And because it can be so sneaky and subtle, sometimes it can feel absolutely IMPOSSIBLE to undo the habits of thinking with the ego mind, but it IS possible through practice of interrupting the pattern, so please, let’s practice! Let’s be truly helpful!
Next time you feel the urge to fix someone, take a breath of love and gratitude. Look into their eyes, their heart, and see them as perfect and loveable just the way they are. Give them a hug. Listen without interrupting or offering advice.
We ALL want to feel loved, heard, seen, and received. What if being that energy and consciousness was the greatest gift we could offer?